Chapter of Life: Action and Reaction

There are days in your life when nothing seems to be going the way you had planned and wished. There are days in your life, when your patient self gives away to the hurt words and actions of others. There are also days when you feel torn apart and you end up saying thing, which you should not have said. There are thus some days when you end up hurting somebody through words or actions even if you did not intend to do so. These are just your frustrations that you may have found an outlet for.

By the time you realise what had happened, equations in relationship often undergo change, forever. And the time that you missed never comes back. Still life, sometimes, gives a second chance.

Yet the best option is always to keep a check on yourself, before you even give yourself a reason to regret and wait for a second chance. My personal experience has done wonders.

– A deep breath to invite calm

It is very difficult to get a clear picture of a situation when emotions like anger and tears arrest you.
Have you ever wondered how you react when your boss calls you into his room to tell you that your performance has not been remarkable, especially at the time of recession? Some react instantly, some stay calm. For sure it would not be a laid back attitude as you know that the current economic situation has also turned more demanding from a performance point of view.
Of course you cannot ignore it. Also, the more you think about your boss’s remark, sleepless nights and a temperament to harm others with words will take more control of your otherwise friendly and calm nature. It is not easy to forget but still you can move over such situations – beginning by taking deep breaths. This would calm you down, and prevent an ugly display of emotions, war of words and wrong decisions.

– A second to think

When situations are not fine, emotions very easily shroud your thinking process. However, by taking a second to think will instantly prevent you from simply surrendering yourselves to the rule of feelings and sentiments. “I’m right, and you are wrong” would soon give way to, “May be I went wrong somewhere, I’ll get back to you”.
In case, if it is your boss who gave you a trimming down session, you would think about the probable reason for the boss’s reaction. Also, instead of bad mouthing and sulking, you would begin thinking of working on target achievements.
You need not run away from situations; or think of “I quit because he said so”.
A second to think can make a whole lot of difference.
– A word it takes to make or break
It is best to avoid any conversation when you cannot think well, especially when you are a victim of emotions. At such a time there are more chances of speaking out those words and things that are hurtful, display aggression, arrogance and animosity. The end result would be nothing but shocked friends, colleagues and dear ones. When you calm down, you will be equally ashamed of yourself and your actions.
As children you might have hurt your parents several times. Once you acknowledge your mistake, or in some cases the parents help you correct your ways, everything is back to normal. And you remember not to repeat the mistake. The parents forgive you and continue to love you as always. However, imagine such a situation with your boss? It becomes really embarrassing coming back to the office after you create a sticky situation.

– A sorry comes to rescue

“I’m sorry,” “I apologise,” “I regret my action”. These are some of the word combination you resort to sort out an issue. It means a lot if you genuinely mean it.
I remember leaving sorry notes on my father’s table. The boss also appreciates if you say sorry for your action. But you have to give your bloated ego a reality check to understand the practical demands of life.
In fact, often it is our ego at work that causes trouble in a generally peaceful environment. Therefore, do not expect anything in return for the sorry that you said to someone.

– A dislike, to adjust to

It is not necessary that you like everybody whom you come in contact with. Every person has a unique individuality. Your may like some, love others and hate few. But when living in a society, be it home, school, college or office, you have to learn to master the art of adjusting to your dislikes too. For instance, you do not like the way a particular colleague gossips, writes mails to top boss with cooked up office stories and situations that did not exist. Unfortunately the person shares the office space with you.
Every day you have to see and be with the person though you hate to do so. Therefore, you become rational. Since it is impossible to change a person, you decide to adjust and concentrate on work.

An article on life that you typed on computer is easy to correct or delete by pressing the keys or mouse button. In real life, you do not often get a chance to undo your emotions, words and actions, once it is expressed. As an ordinary human being, you are bound to make mistakes and sometimes break relations too; next time think before you act.

Published in ezine.com

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